Free eBook How to Fail: Everything I’ve Ever Learned from Things Going Wrong By Elizabeth Day –

I was expecting a humorous and deep discussion of failure, but the bits of this book I read consisted of a rather dull, superficial account of disappointments and difficulties in the author s own life, with comparisons to those of celebrities I felt that was she was describing was ordinary life for most people in that age economic geographical group The sense of being an outsider is after all very common, as is not turning out to be good at things you wanted to do I like her novels though, especially The Party. Inspired By Her Hugely Popular Podcast, How To Fail, Is Elizabeth Day S Brilliantly Funny, Painfully Honest And Insightful Celebration Of Things Going Wrong This Is An Audiobook For Anyone Who Has Ever Failed Which Means It S An Audiobook For Everyone If I Have Learned One Thing From This Shockingly Beautiful Venture Called Life, It Is This Failure Has Taught Me Lessons I Would Never Otherwise Have Understood I Have Evolved As A Result Of Things Going Wrong Than When Everything Seemed To Be Going Right Out Of Crisis Has Come Clarity, And Sometimes Even Catharsis Part Memoir, Part Manifesto, And Including Chapters On Dating, Work, Sport, Babies, Families, Anger And Friendship, It Is Based On The Simple Premise That Understanding Why We Fail Ultimately Makes Us Stronger It S An Audiobook About Learning From Our Mistakes And About Not Being Afraid Uplifting, Inspiring And Rich In Stories From Elizabeth S Own Life, How To Fail Reveals That Failure Is Not What Defines Us Rather It Is How We Respond To It That Shapes Us As Individuals Because Learning How To Fail Is Actually Learning How To Succeed Better And Everyone Needs A Bit Of That What a wonderful book I have enjoyed Elizabeth Day s podcast series for ages and this is far, far than a rehash or transcripts of the broadcasts.This is a beautifully written and deeply honest, maybe even cathartic analysis of her life and what makes her tick interspersed with examples from some of her celebrity guests.She opens herself up about all sorts of personal topics and as a man I hope I am able to say that it gave me an insight into a woman s psyche and what makes her tick.A glorious book that entertained, educated and made me think. Like many who buy this book, I had already become hooked on Day s podcast, also called How to Fail I was interested not just in the stories of those whom she interviewed, asking them to list three failures in their own lives, but I also found myself captivated by Day s own story In particular, her honesty, warmth, and startling intelligence made me want to hear about her I have always admired her writing novels and journalism and to at last be able to hear her personal story felt like I d mined into something very deep and rich.This book lived up to what I admit were quite high expectations She takes us through stages of her life, from childhood to her 40th year, often relating her experiences with searing pain, humility, and humour In my role as a clinical psychologist, I often meet young adults who struggle to succeed and I have recommended this book to several people as a useful adjunct to therapy Viewing success as a monolithic goal, whether it is achievement, weight, marriage, money and or status, tends to result in a fragile and quite lonely structure, if it is does not include the ballast of happiness and fulfilment This kind of success often draws us away from our true friends, and can lead us to feel we are living a life that is not truly our own.This book describes with candour the decline and fall that can follow the initial highs and rewards of success It provides the reader with a sense that the author has been there before, and we are not alone It helps us recognise that what we thought was success may in fact be a mirage Day shows that meaningful relationships, being true to ourselves, and making mistakes may provide a fulfilling path to where we eventually want to be.I know I will refer to the book s penultimate chapter again and again, as it deals with how we, as women, often fail at anger by bending far too easily and often unknowingly to please others By overlooking and ignoring our own needs, we may even fail at success Thankfully, the author has managed to make this book about failure a success in her own right She has succeeded in making lemonade from the lemons that life has given her, and her readers will be grateful for this. I have followed Elizabeth from the publication of her first novel, Scissors Paper, Stone, and she just goes from strength to strength as a writer This is a very honest, sometimes very painful, examination of her own life experiences juxtaposed with the experiences of her, often famous and also searingly honest, interviewees Humour and poignancy are beautifully balanced so there is no feeling of self indulgence She has a natural empathy which makes this a compelling read for everyone, all age groups and everyone who has ever failed.